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Originally posted by Eclipse:
Let me say this....until you have been there, don't say what you would or would not do!! Her rationale was that when she made vows for better or for worst (in front of God and all) that she did not put a stipulation on how 'worst' was 'too worst' and that God does not recognize divorce. Now of course, being the good Christian woman that I am, I wanted to remind her that Jesus gave her an out with adultery (I think it is in Matthew), but I kept my big mouth closed! 
They are now trying to work it out, he is trying to regain her trust, and she is not trying to kill him everytime she looks at him. While I hate that my sister had to go through this it tells me a couple of things:
Just 'cause the cheated on mate stays, does not mean they are stupid or looking the other way. In this disposable society that we live in I think it is probably harder to stay than leave!
And ANYONE (yep, including you!) is subseptible to cheating if you don't guard your gate at all times.
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I have to say that I agree with that. I can't sit here and say that if I were married and my hubby cheated on me that I would want out. I can't say that. I can't say I'd stay either. Until I walk a mile in those moccasins, I don't know what I would do. I would take the vows seriously, so I can see how your friend would work thru it, because of the for better or for worse. Now, a relationship is a whole 'nother ball game. I didn't make no oath to you, so I ain't got to stick around for the games and the lies.
I would have to say that I think it would be harder to stay than to leave. All of you have at least one friend that is in a relationship where there is no trust (or maybe it's you). Think about how busy they (or you) are: checking the pager, checking the voicemail, driving by the crib, checking the caller id, following him and his friends to the club, tagging along with him and his friends to the club, all the questions, all the doubts. Man, that's tiresome. I'll take the breakup any day over that drama.
Professor, thanks for sharing your story. How hard was that to do in a forum full of women?! I'm interested in your response (should you choose to give one) to LadyAKA's question.
Soror LadyAKA, welcome back!!!
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