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Originally posted by Professor:
One normally cheats because need are being met. Now we must keep in mind that there are couples who prefer to remain married and have a little something on the side. I know many couples that are in love but still find it refreshing the seek the comforts of someone other than his or her spouse. For example, I am often told that chic on the side listens to my boy's problems or my female associates suggest that their husbands don't spend time with them. I'm not suggesting couples can't be in love and still cheat only that often needs go unmet which result in cheating
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Professor,
I don't know if you are a proponent of this 'reasoning' or not; however, I find it to be a thinly veiled excuse for WEAKNESS!
I am not verbally beating up on you. I am really tired of hearing that as an excuse. No, your not cheating because your needs aren't being met. First of all, you're cheating because you are incomplete as a person and second you're cheating because you are incredibly selfish.
I have personally experienced cheating within a MARRIAGE. From that experience and from observing others, the "my needs aren't being met and that's why I'm cheating" is just another example of the mission statement for today's society. INSTANT GRATIFICATION!!! If I can't get it here, someone else will provide it over there.
What ever happened to working through our problems and seeing if a solution can be found. After we've BOTH honestly given it a try, then perhaps we should cease and desist. After dissolving that relationship, maybe, I can then entertain introducing someone else into my life.
Cheating will only bring further trauma to a situation that's fragile.
Professor, this is in no way an attack upon you but that whole philosophy of my needs aren't being met so I'm gonna find someown else who can meet them. Talk about cake and eating it too!
But dem's just my two pennies.
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[This message has been edited by jazbri (edited February 20, 2001).]
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