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Originally posted by sigmagrrl
Clingy means you are afraid to be without that person. Clingy screams of insecurity. Neediness whispers vulnerability...
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K, this statement is kind of problematic. I think you have confused being needy with something more healthy.
NEEDINESS is a turn-off. NEEDING someone is not. You can let someone know that they are needed without being needy. lol, I know that sounds like semantics, but think about it.
CLINGINESS is simply a physical manifestation of neediness. Is it really so different? Whichever label you decide to put on it, it is essentially the same thing, just taking different forms.
I think the biggest proble for most of the posters on this thread is the attitude the put forth to everyone. As some other posters have alluded to, if you feel lonely and depressed, that is what you will exude to everyone. No one really wants to surround themselves with loneliness and depression.
If you realize that you can be a complete person without any outside validation, then you will come across as confident and self-assured, and that type of attitude is generally attractive.
I am also single by choice. I know that I could probably have my pick of most anyone if I really wanted (because I am cocky and arrogant like that
), but I also know that I am not going to settle. I have too much to offer to waste my time with people who aren't going to appreciate it.
To poeple who are lonely and depressed my suggestion would be to stop worry about outside validation, and start trying to get to know yourself, and all that you have to offer.
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