I just have to respond after reading all these responses on the purpose of being in a auxilliary group. Please don't take this in a offensive way but I just had to add my opinion.
I decided to be a Kappa Sweetheart when I was a sophomore in college. It wasn't a matter of trying to be a "soror" to a fraternity or trying to clean up after any of the men of Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity, Inc. And I REFUSE to BELIEVE that any of my other Diamond sisters chose to join for that purpose. I get SOOOOO TIRED of people thinking that people who join auxilliary groups do so because they are weak minded or not strong enough to join a "real sorority". If I wanted to join a sorority, I would've done so. I am a strong black woman, and I don't search for a group to make me or define who I am. I found a group of women who had similar interest as me and who were down to earth and I chose to become a part of their organization. I can join any organization that I wish to join. Just because it is not "recognized" as a part of the NPHC...I DON'T CARE!! I don't have to be recognized by ANYONE in order to serve the community. Okay, so we are not recognized by the NPHC - we will still continue to exist. As a matter of fact, some schools are changing the names of the organization so they are not automatically affiliated with Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity, Inc. I mean, sometimes the attitudes of people are "if you don't have these 3 letters on your chest, you CAN'T be incorporated, you can't exist, why would you even want to JOIN an organization with just ONE LETTER..." At the time, it was what I wanted for myself and I don't regret any of it.
And not ONCE, EVER during my process of becoming a Kappa Diamond did I subject myself to behavior that was not indicative of a lady. I DID NOT clean up after ANY member of Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity, Inc...I DID NOT run errands and do things that I thought I should not do...basically, I don't take any sh*t, from anyone, Greek or otherwise...
...now on another, lighter note, I do respect all that Greek organizations stand for and do. My intentions when choosing an auxialiary group was not to step on the toes of ANY member of a 3 lettered greek organization. Actually, that was the last thing on my mind. A matter of fact, I do want to join a sorority in the future. And I feel that the experience I've had in being in an auxiallary organization has helped me understand what being in a organization is all about. It takes a lot of time, effort, planning and heart. So much props to 3 lettered organizations and just please try to understand why people become sweethearts. It's not to try to be greek, at least not for me.
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