lonely and depressed...

[honeychile]

Interestingly, I've seen this exact same conversation on another message board, only it's the guys wondering where to find the right women!

They're out there, searching just like you, but maybe they don't look like a model. Maybe they're not making $100k a year. And almost assuredly, they're somewhat shy.

I met my fiancé at a soccer convention. In fact, I've met several of the men I've dated at a soccer convention! They're good, honest men who enjoy watching and sometimes playing the beautiful game. If you're interested in soccer, pm me for information on the convention. You'll have a great time, whether or not you meet "Mr. Right".

So, you don't like soccer. Do you like any sports? If so, go to a game or match, dress appropriately, and talk to people around you. It can be as simple as "Was that Jones with the ball?" or "That hot dog smells good - which stand has them?" Once the ice is broken, you can make comments all through the game. Well, within reason - he did come to the game to see it, after all! If you hit it off, ask him if he's coming to the next game.

Weekends in the afternoon at parks & such are great places to watch single dads. If you see one who is exceptionally good with his kid, when he sits down, sit next to him and comment that he seems to be handling Visitation Day well. But make SURE he's single! Try watching a few times, and you'll get the idea real quick. Same thing works with dogs, btw.

Do you have any interests that have a club, a round table discussion, or something similar? Go! If you're shy, and someone asks for your opinion (and you're not sure what to say), just say that you're absorbing all the wonderful information that you're hearing ("I'm doing the sponge thing!") then after the meeting, try to talk one on one with one of the single guys.

Hope that helps!