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First, I do understand how you feel. I was 27 when I got married.
I was the LAST woman standing so to speak-always a bridesmaid, never a bride! Plus my dating history with Hubby, who I met at 17, was often mildly tumultuous, there were many long term breakups. I felt scared and lonely at times too.
Now, as I look back, I wish I would have done more with the freedom I had. I didn't travel, I didn't pursue some dreams all because I was "waiting".
Now I can see that the majority of successful marriages in this little corner are between couples who wed in their late 20s and early 30s. I will admit that most of the men are professionals and completed their education PRIOR to marriage. Not all, but several couples married in college or right after, split up. Maybe it's because so much about you as an individual changes in your 20s.
Things are very difficult for young women (IMO). You face moral and health issues that didn't exist to the same extent as they do now. However, people are living longer and women are able to have children later in life.
A very wise person said-the harder you look for love, the more elusive love becomes. It knows its own time, but it can't find YOU if you're stuck at work or home. The more men you come in contact with, the better chance you will find one you could love.
What I am trying to say is at 23, you have the entire world waiting for YOU. Sure, some people can go to a bar and meet a guy and it works out great, they can go to church groups and all that. You have the greatest opportunity to meet someone if you go out and LIVE. Experience new things. Go to boat shows-(JUST a JOKE) There is some truth there-Men love their toys, find some you could like as well. Just know that many, many feel or hve felt exactly like you do. Never hesitate to share your feelings, that's when GC really shines!
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