I need some major advice…or guidance…or words of wisdom – whatever you want to call it.
His name is Mike. We started talking about 2 or 3 weeks ago – we went to the same schools growing up and he is now in the marines (getting out and moving back here in august). We talked what seemed like 24 hours a day on the phone and online nonstop. He would tell me that he thought I was this awesome girl and although I was worried about meeting him – he said it would be okay and that he promised to never use me.
So last weekend we met. I knew way ahead of time he wasn’t driving 7 hours just to meet me – he had this trip planned before we even started talking and he hasn’t been home since Thanksgiving. He was meeting his best friend David at 6am on Saturday to spend the day fishing – and it was also Easter weekend. He had to see his mom and his sister and her kids – and go see his dad. I understood all of this and I was cool – very supportive of him not worrying about me, but spending time with his family and friends. He got to my house late on Friday. He took a shower, I gave him a massage, we laid around on the sofa and watched tv for awhile. We went to bed and yes all that happened – 3 times. We stayed up until he had to leave – talking and just laying there. He kissed me a few times goodbye and said he would see me later, but I didn’t see him the rest of his trip home.
I did feel okay about it because he called me at least 5 or 6 times on Saturday just to check in and tell me what he was doing and asking what I was doing. We talked again a few times on Sunday, and although I was disappointed that I didn’t get to see him before he left – I played it cool. Besides, he wrote me an email early Monday when he woke up telling thanking me for understanding, and that he would be back home in a few weeks and we could spend more time together then.
Now it is Wednesday. He hasn’t called me since he left on Sunday – which I find weird because we used to talk all the time. We have talked on the computer, and he has mentioned several times that he is coming back into town in a few weeks - and things are feeling a little bit more like they used to. But I am struggling with the idea of just flat out asking him if what happened on Friday was a one time thing or what. I don’t want to scare him away or pressure him or demand some kind of commitment – I just want to know where things stand. I don’t know how to do this though…
What is your honest opinion of what happened ? And should I try to get some answers from him or just wait it out? I don’t want to come off as this psycho girl. Its not that I want this big time relationship either, I just like to know where things are at.
Be kind
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