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Originally posted by shadokat
I think that unless you've had to be the mother that hears her daughter will be cut or the person who has had to call that mother, this is a difficult situation to sympathize with.
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When I was an active and a young alum, it never occurred to me--or, I think now, my sisters--to worry much about the effect of cutting legacies on the PNMs and their moms. They'd find another home, right? They'd get over it, right?
Then as I got older and friends' daughters rushed--and usually got cut by their legacy sororities since most went to UGa--I witnessed firsthand the devastation of moms and daughters. When that daughter you've shown your pin to, introduced your sisters to, sung sorority lullabies to...is rejected by your very own sorority, it has to feel like a knife thrust to the heart.
We can call it what we want, but it's rejection. We can dress it up with phrases like "she'll find a better sorority home" or "she just wasn't a good fit" but face it, it's rejection.
Two of my daughters have pledged 2 different sororities, seven more will rush someday. If any are ever cut by Pi Phi, I know that even if they find another sorority home--even if I hear that there were far more legacies than places for PNMs---it will be a low and horrible blow.
Very often, your feelings in your twenties are vastly different from your feelings after forty.
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