I was a psych major and I do feel that spanking CAN be effective if cared out properly. I don't think that you should spank a child everytime that they do something wrong. I have a 11 month old son and right now I do not spank him, and don't plan to for a while. The reasoning is that he has no earthly idea what in the world I am talking about half of the time so why spank him when he's just going to do it again until he can rationalize. I think that's where parents go wrong, they tend to want to think that the child always knows what he or she is talking about. I strongly believe in asking older children why they think they are being disciplined, just to see what their perception is. Yes, I was spanked and I am a law abiding citizen that has not gone out and robbed a bank or committed a murder, but I do think that I probably could have been punished by taking privledges and had better results, because spankings just pissed me off. I also feel like your views change when you become a parent. I know when I was childless I would see children at the mall, SHOWING OUT!!!, and I would say I wish she would beat his/her ass. I know if she whooped him/her they would not act like that. Now that I am a mother my reaction has changed a lot. Every parent know what't best for their child.
I'm steping off of my soap box now.
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