affairs

[aephi alum]

Maybe this is because I'm a woman and I don't understand the "guy code" but...

If a close friend/sister of mine were doing the cheating, I would have a talk with the cheater. Not a thou-shalt-not-or-I-will-tell type of lecture - more like "this will really hurt your S.O. when it comes out".

If a close friend/sister were the cheatee, I would try to find a way to tell her without telling her outright... something to raise her suspicions.

If the people involved weren't particularly close to me I'd keep my mouth shut. I'd also keep my mouth shut if I didn't have any hard evidence. Sometimes you don't know the whole story.

And, no, I have never cheated on an S.O., and to the best of my knowledge, none of my S.O.'s have cheated on me. In my husband's case, it's just not in his character.