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I also agree with everything that was said. You should find someone she trusts to talk to her about this. Maybe there was just a misunderstanding behind all of it.
One thing to keep in mind (happened to our chapter a few times) is that if there's one NM who doesn't fit with the rest of a pledge class, it could cause problems in the long run. In my experience, we've had a few girls come through that were almost outcasts in their pledge classes for whatever reason. They were obviously unhappy, but the people in the house who loved them convinced them to stay. When they were initiated, they discovered that the pledge class they didn't like was a lot like the rest of the sisters (because, you generally assume that the majority of any pledge class will mesh well with the initiated sisters). So they went through thinking things would be different once they were initiated, but by then they (or the chapter) realized they'd made a mistake. Sometimes it worked out in the end, other times you had sisters who were really unhappy deactivate or cause problems with the rest of the chapter until they graduated.
This could be fairly unique to our situation since we'd get a lot of NMs through informal rush who knew a sister (who might not be typical of the chapter) really well, but it's something to keep in mind if the NM has serious problems fitting in with the pledge class. I knew a lot of super-nice, sweet, wonderful girls who would never be happy in my chapter, and there's nothing wrong with that. It only became a problem when the best interests of the NM and the chapter were overlooked.
Good luck and keep us posted!
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