Collegian/Alum Relations

[PandaBear]

I am working with our newly formed alum club, and we seem to be having some struggles with our collegiate chapter members. We are a diverse group (the alum club) and represent several different chapters. Our collegians don't seem to understand that we are here to support them (I guess they are afraid that we are trying to run things). I only know of one major problem we have had - several of our alums showed up for initiation and the collegians ruined it! They talked and laughed the whole time (yes...during the actual ritual!!!) We did express our concern for the preservation of ritual (quite vocally) but there was tension before this happened. I want our alum club to be successful, but I also know that we need cooperation on both ends. Anyone else had this problem? Any ideas? Thanks!