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Originally posted by 2017law
In terms of being a rush violation, here is 1 example, there are others, namely the UF thread, where GCers and PNMs have sought each other out and remained in contact during rush.
This is just me defending my statement with evidence to back it up. Sorry if too law school-ish, it's consumed my life for a year and a half.
~2017 
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Let me just say, in positive response, that Annie (Shark in Skirt) emailed me after discovering I was a member of a Greek Organization at UCR. I, having been a Recruitment Counselor last year and having been EXTREMELY careful about "pre-rushing" PNMs, was quite hesitant in responding to her. First of all, we haven't started the "silence period" yet- it is perfectly OK on my campus to speak to PNMs. Needless to say, I am not a rude person. If I receive an email from a PNM (who by the way, was able to get my email address because it's on my GC profile) who is interested in Recruitment in general, I will be kind enough to answer her questions, direct her to the proper Panhellenic people to talk to, and possibly assist her with any questions/problems she's having as a new freshman at my university. Annie has emailed me to let me know she's been enjoying life at UCR thus far, that she's met lots and lots of girls from DIFFERENT sororities and has enjoyed their company, that she's more excited about UCR than she thought she'd be. She understands the recruitment rules, as do I. The only times I've ever even seen Annie have been 1) at a Student Life sponsored event where all the sororities were represented and she seeked me out, we introduced ourselves, she continued meeting people from all the other organizations. 2) she came into my office (where Greek life is housed) to turn in a Recruitment application, I just happened to be working front desk and she recognized me. She said hi, I said hi, have a good weekend, and she was on her way. I have never even once attempted to "rush" her for my specific organization- I have various close friends in other orgs who would be just as lucky to have someone as wonderful as Annie in their organization... and you know what, no matter where she ends up, she'll still be my sister in Panhellenic, and that's all that matters to me.
This my actual job on campus: to assist any and all (especially new) students to become acquainted with the Student Organizations on my campus. If those organizations that the student is interested in happen to be GLOs, I will give my best knowledge and advice to those students. For everyone's information, I am the only student employee (of 12 in my office) that has agreed to not wear anything Greek-related, including my own letters, on the job, so as not to inadvertently recruit students or scare away those who are intimidated by social Greeks. The other 6 students who are members of social Greek orgs can wear whatever they want and speak of their organizations at any time.
On my campus, there are numerous actions that can be written as recruitment infractions. My chapter was wrongly accused last year of an infraction, yet we still did the deeds we were asked to do in order to clear it. This year, like every other, every NPC chapter is searching out behavior that will lead to another chapter getting an infraction. It's ridiculous, childish, and makes recruitment look like a bunch of, excuse me, b*tches out for blood, when aside from Fall Recruitment, the six chapters represented on my campus are extremely close and favorable of one another- we have wonderful Panhellenic unity, until it's time to bust someone.
I'm sorry if I'm sounding overly-defensive, but I have never once "dirty rushed" anyone, and because an interested PNM has emailed me asking me questions about rush in general, about the university, about Panhellenic, that doesn't mean I'm dirty rushing anyone- it's not against the rules whatsoever. I've never called/emailed/etc Annie in order to dirty rush her. She's gone out with her suitemates because she's independent and willing to meet everyone, and I wouldn't doubt if other chapter members have put in their own "shameless plugs" directly to her face- but isn't that what we want: a good name for our own organization?
Lastly, I think if GCers are concerned about how a shameless plug may affect what a GC PNM will choose in terms of chapters, then a) don't give shameless plugs (I know I'm guilty of them, too and I can stop as easy as anyone else) and b) encourage PNMs to not mention chapter names or clues that give away chapter names in their rush threads. Most of them have been kind enough all ready to do so. I don't think anyone should be hurt if a PNM does not choose your chapter- chapters vary by school as we all know and the comments made by PNMs about chapters are only first impressions... believe me, if I only went by first impressions, my best friends would not be members of a sorority that I dropped after round one. The girls that I didn't like then are now some of my best friends... don't take little comments to heart.
Again, I'm sorry if this comes off as defensive, but one comment can seem to bring on numerous allegations that just aren't true. And again, PnquinTrax, thanks for bringing up this discussion. I think we should all be just a little more careful of what we say and do- words and actions are consistently misinterpreted. I'm not even going to post my signature until recruitment at UCR is over, just in case.
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