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Leilanimoon,
I'm terribly sorry to hear of your disappointments. It sounds as if you're going through quite a lot. I'm glad you have such encouraging friends to help you continue with this process.
It's a very, very common occurrence to be released from chapters whom you respect and enjoy, (many, many pnms on GC have faced exactly the same situation) but as UF56 very wisely stated, "things happen for a reason." Unfortunately the reason can take time to reveal itself, and in the midst of our disappointment we can feel lost, but rest assured it is always there and you will, with time, be granted clarity about this situation.
My only suggestion is that you reflect back on the chapters that have invited you to their next event and think how you might see yourself contributing to their sisterhood. Much of the collegiate experience of sisterhood is about working with others to ensure the health of the organization. It's truly one of the joys of the Greek collegiate experience, and one that we, as members, sometimes forget to emphasize, as the work we do for our chapters eventually becomes second nature. But I would ask you, can you picture yourself participating in your prospective houses' philanthropic work, planning a sisterhood retreat, working on their house board, arranging a social event, etc? Do the sisterhoods have events and projects that you would enjoy participating in? Or, do you see yourself being able to begin new traditions and develop events and projects that you see they need? How can you use the skills you may have developed in other areas of your life to help develop the organizations that are considering you for membership?
I make this suggestion because I truly feel that when it comes to Greek Life, as in life in general, you get out of it what you are willing to put in. One of the most significant aspects of my collegiate experience was the WORK I did as a sister. Everything from raking the lawn at the Ronald McDonald House, to making scholarship application packets, to writing the Greek Week skit, to revamping our formal recruitment, made me value my wonderful chapter and sisters all the more and cherish the opportunities afforded me by my sorority. The icing on the cake was the fact that I learned so much from all the work that I did do within chapter, and I developed inter-personal and business skills that I use to this day.
I hope you will take this suggestion to heart and consider where you would like to contribute all your obvious good qualities.
I wish you all the best; I know that this will work out. Re-read some of the rush threads on this board, as I stated above it’s been an extremely common occurrence for those pnms posting on GC to be released from rush “favorites” however, if they entered the next rounds with open minds and hearts they were invariably carried gracefully into the arms of sisterhoods that welcomed them with love, sisterhoods they would never trade for their initial recruitment “crushes.” I wish the same happy ending for you.
Best Panhellenic wishes,
violets
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