First of all I want to say that I really think your topic is great!!! I really applaud you for taking into consideration the feelings of the PNM's. You must make a wonderful recruitment advisor. I think so often we lose sight of what kind of power we really do possess when it comes to rushing these girls.
This will be my second year as a rusher, and although I look forward to meeting all the new girls and gaining new sisters I honestly do not enjoy all the aspects that go along with rush!!! I hate the fact that here we all are, thrown into a room with tons of girls we don't know and then given the job of weeding out the good girls from the bad...simply just by talking to them once or twice. How can this be a logical way of really getting girls you want. Okay, so you have a couple of girls who are really, really nice....they are everything you look for in a sister. They get good grades, they are nice, polite, they are really involved in other activities....you love them the instant they walk into your house. However, you are only given the chance to talk to them three nights...I mean really talk to them, and in my honest opinion anyone can be the apitomy of sisterhood for just three days. How do you know they are going to continue being the person you thought they were. I know it sounds silly but it has happened to my chapter and it is not a great feeling. There are a lot of things that people don't see when you only have the chance to become aquainted with someone. This also goes for those who may not seem as great!!! I am still kicking myself for saying something negative about someone (which possibly kept her from getting a bid) who is now a member of another sorority on campus and has gotten them tons of recoginition because she is such a leader. Wanna know what I said?? "She just agreed with everything I said so much that I thought she wasn't even listening to what I was telling her". Of course at the time, I thought this was a legitamate reason for why she shouldn't get a bid...she seemed uninterested. However, I never took into consideration that she was probably just VERY nervous and didn't know what TO say to me.
I personally think rush is over-rated. Formal rush begins on my campus for sororities the same week school starts. I mean really, how can you get to know these girls....and really know what they are all about??? I just think there should be another way to go about rush....make the girls have to be on campus for a year, or something like that so you have the opportunity to really get to know them. I just think by us "rushing" into extending bids we are missing out on a lot of great girls...and possibly gaining some who aren't neccessarily sisterhood material!!!
Anyone else feel this way besides me??
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