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Shine -- #1. You don't know me. I'm sorry if I came off spoiled and if it offended you. Spoiled is a relative term, so I'm not even going to try to argue that...
#2. You have no idea how blessed I feel that I am. I'm sorry that you lost your father, but I have a hard time believing that when he was around you never got aggravated with him or found him to be unreasonable at times. My inital thread was a vent, not "I hate my dad forever and ever AMEN". I live for my dad...Regardless of what it sounds like, I do everything he asks me to do, within my abilities/power. My dad's happiness is mine.
#3. I do have a right to expect something. I have the right to expect that if he's going to financially treat me like an adult, that he emotionally, mentally, and parentally treat me like an adult as well.
#4. Like I said before, I AM SORRY that you lost your father. I would be lost without mine, he is my heart and my soul. And most of the time my best friend. To set the record absolutely straight, there is no one on this planet that I would wish death on in an capacity.
Librasoul - Thanks for the PM, by the way. Anyhow, I do know that it is possible to be financially independant at the age of 19, I'm not disputing that. I never said that I depended on him for money or even expected it.. All I said about finances is 1, the cell phone thing - - WHICH I had money for, he just simply chose not to tell me I owed him anything until after he had it turned off. I ask you this also: If it's so important to him that he practices "Tough Love", why isn't he doing it? To me it seems a little silly to have MY cell phone under HIS name... Because no matter how much I go over, he still pays it so it doesn't affect his credit.. THEN he asks me for it. Why does he not just drop me? It's not a contract (he has it in with one of the managers, so she didn't make us sign a year long contract or anything). That would make more sense to me..."Maybe then I'd learn".
DeltAlum - Again, I'm sorry that the original post came off so bad, like I said - - I was venting. I'm not trying to cover my butt by saying 'you guys don't know the whole story', but it really is simply too much to get into. So I ask that any/all of you (not just DeltAlum) that wants to criticize or attack me for any certain reason, feel free to ask me to elaborate on a background.. On what started, why this or why that...Back to DeltAlum.. I understand what you meant by they treat you with graditude, for I already feel that way towards my dad. I've made some undesirable choices in life, as has he. I understand most of what he's doing to/for me, just not the dictorial (is that a word?) things.
justamom - As I stated previously, I don't take money from my parents. In fact I make it a point not to. I know what it's like to owe them money... It's not a good thing...Also as I have said, I do try to reason with him...But he's the kind of person that hears but doesn't listen...Which leads to him yelling at me beacause he's right and me yelling back because...well because he was yelling at me.
I'm sorry this turned into such a novel...And if anyone has any questions about anything else I may or may not have gone into and you don't feel like posting it here, feel free to PM me...
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