I attend a small university in our state's college system. I accepted a bid for the sorority of my first choice, have recently gone through Big/Little reveal. I've generally enjoyed the new member period in theory as I was excited to begin this next chapter making sister-friends for life.
I joined for the sisterhood and while the older girls have been friendly we are at different places in our lives. The girls in my pledge class ( of about 20 or so) haven't been inclusive and are very cliquey. I've done all the usual friend-making efforts- smiled, attend fundraisers, participated wherever I could, attended formal bonding events, asked to be included in non formal
events giving the benefit of the doubt to the group as maybe they just didn't realize I wasn't given notice. I've shown up for informal pictures only to be told they're done taking group shots, texted to meet up/walk together to chapter or events, asked in the group chats and privately for updates I've missed due to classes, etc. I get nothing in response to social media, a few of the girls are nice as I'm talking to them, but nothing happens to correct the situation.
I don't understand the social exclusion as I've not done anything that I know of to offend them. We were all invited to join the same sorority so we must have something in common. The older sisters have noticed the situation asking me privately why I've not been included in pictures/get- togethers, even general comments to the group about lack of pledge class unity and following the tenants of sisterhood have been addressed in our chapter meetings.
I'm feeling stressed/depressed and disappointed. I don't know what else to do about this pathetic situation and feel that maybe the best thing to do is not take initiation next week. Any helpful advice?
A Bell
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