Confused!

Hmm, this sounds so familiar!

We also had a legacy at our fall rushes who did not really want to be a part of the sorority, but she also had her family pressuring her. She sat down with us and asked us for advice and made it clear that it's not that she didn't like us, she wanted to pursue other things while she's in college.

We told her to sit her with grandma and explain the situation. If your parents are the ones pressuring you, do you know if your grandmother feels the same way? You could probably be assured that your grandmother wants nothing but the best for you, so tell her that being in a sorority isn't the best thing to do right now. Also, explain to your parents that you are at IU for a reason, and that's to get an education. There are other ways to make them proud of you and hopefully they'll be able to see that.