May I have your thoughts?

[SoClassic]

Originally Posted by Hartofsec

SoClassic, if your wish is to recapture the time you lost, I fear you will be disappointed. It might be a good idea to carefully evaluate how your goals and interests, with respect to the person you are now, fit into the sorority life culture on your campus.

You are not less because of the experiences that took you down a different path and prevented you from enjoying college life as an 18-year-old. You undoubtedly have been enriched by your experience and insight, but in a different way moving forward as a 26-year-old. Considering your life experiences, much of what seems important in the world of an 18-year-old new sorority member may seem trivial by comparison.

All the best to you, however, regardless of your decision. : )

I've just done some more research and looked up academic reports for each chapter. Turns out, they were available online! I feel A LOT better about my GPA after seeing the averages for chapters on my campus. Looks like grades won't be an issue for me after all like I originally thought. So that's good news!

And I hope what I say next doesn't make me sound like a train wreck, because I assure you all that I'm not!

Several of you have mentioned that my views (socially and personally) may vastly differ from the sisters and I just have to say that I honestly don't think this is entirely true for me. In many ways, I am mature beyond my 25 years because of my past and situation with my mom and all that. But conversely, I can recognize that I'm immature for my age in several areas as well. One of those is socially! I didn't have much of a social life between the ages of 17-22 like most new college kids do. I know I can't get that time back per se. But for those of you worried about how I will react to being expected to attend socials, formals, "frat parties," sleepovers, and clubs with the girls .... well, I'm not worried about enjoying myself. I like to have a good time. Most 25 year olds are over it by this age. I'm not, simply because I haven't experienced it much for myself yet. I've been good about keeping things classy, but we all know girls like to have fun!

And really, it's all about perspective. I learned at a young age how to make the best out of every situation and this is no different. I'm adaptable and strong and smart and talented and I can only hope that the chapters see these things in me as well. If they don't, great. I'll find my home on campus somewhere else.