Should I drop my sorority?

[SoCalGirl]

How long were you away from school? If it was less than a year, which is the impression I'm getting, you may have automatically reverted back to active status.

You need to speak to you President, VP, or whoever can confirm, to know what your status is at this point. If you're still alum status, find out if you even have to do anything more. In my own sorority, if you've been gone more than a year you can keep alum status and no longer be part of the chapter even if your back on campus. I get the feeling that would be ideal for you.


Whether or not you should drop your sorority is complicated.

How many years do you have left in school?
Are you really over your medical (mental) condition?
Is there anyone at all in the chapter that you have a friendship with on any level?


To be blunt, I get the impression that you're still dealing with some mental health issues (extreme stress, depression, whatever it really is) and dropping your chapter could cause you to become even more isolated. But, staying could also cause you stress and become more isolated.


Do you have other activities, connections and friendships outside of the sorority? Do you have a peer support system of any kind? If not, I want to encourage you to get that in place ASAP. You'll probably need therapy too.


Now, your sisters that are shunning you. They're lame. They're also normal. The vast of the majority does not understand "mental breakdowns". The vast of the majority also interprets others behavior in relation only to their own feelings. They're not mental health experts so they're not going to understand that your breakdown was minimally about them and certainly wasn't a way for you to intentionally make them look bad. Please forgive them.