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I have had the advantage of wisdom imparted by elderly people over the years, especially elderly women.
This is a distillation of several conversations and observations:
In the traditional society most of us subscribe to on the most basic unconscious level, women are considered the Supporting Actresses of relationships.
They are there to enhance the relationship and to derive somewhat of their status from men.
When I say this, in the conventional STORY of male and female relationships as reflected in various forms of media, the man is supposed to be a little more than the woman, better educated, more worldly, makes more money etc.
Theoretically this framework allows the woman to also grow and develop without threatening the marriage itself. It also fits the the idea that many times men were significantly older than their brides . . . again it allowed women to grow within the marriage without threatening the man or the marriage.
Keep in mind that this was a cultural mythos and there were a lot of exceptions. However, when a lot of younger women are sighing over the romantic way that men are treating women in older movies, the setting is from this type of concept.
Today going dutch at your local fast food restaurant can be a high point in the dating career of a college coed.
This story is changing because the players have changed, or more importantly the women have.
To be continued
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