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Women and their problems
To the carolinaDG,
Since I'm a DG lover I'll try to put it as nicely as I can.
First off, do you go to USC and are you from South Carolina? If you are then YES you are weird. If you are in college and you have a tendency to date MANY guys for a period of only two weeks and then break up with them, YES that is abnormal. That is something you do when you are in HIGHSCHOOL or Middle School. Why don't you try to hang out with them and as a group of friends before you start dating them actually. You see my theory is this, woman meets a guy that she thinks is cute. Woman spends a few days talking on the phone. Woman goes on a date. The two somewhat hook up. Man plays off the womans emotions. Eventually the woman wants sex and gives in. She gives in because she doesn't want to feel like a slut for having sex with a guy she is not dating ( which is totally an image thing) therefore says to man, "I don't put out unless we are dating." The point is, it's not " a fear of commitment", it's simple---You do not need a boyfriend right now. Believe it or not babe, you can still get some booty without dating someone.
You need to chill with the guy for a couple of weeks before you start dating him. Hang out for some time. Go out to a club and get smashed a few times just to see what kind of person he is when you two are trashed, see if you can handle his issues and he can handle yours. If your not one of those stupid Religous girls that watches the Church channel all the time, have sex with him and see what it's like, only don't tell ANYONE! If the ride feels good buy the car. I have a feeling that you jump into a reltaionship too quick and that is the reason why you have this problem. Trust me girl, I have a vast array of knowledege about chicks and men and the issues of day to day. As far as you feeling like a slut or your friends viewing you as that, I can tell that you are somewhat young, older people know that as you get older you don't feel like a slut when you do such things like have sex with someone. This is just a stage and you will soon get out of it. If you are older and still doing this, you have something wrong with you. Either something has happened to you or to someone you know in your past and it is keeping you from having a relationship. I'm not saying everyone should be in a relationship, some people are not meant to EVER date or get married. The thing is, if something has happened to you in the past and has "made you wiser", then you have not let that thing go or forgave that person and that thing will plague you for the rest of your relationship expierences until you let that hurt go. I'm not saying let your guard down, I am saying be wise but also be openhearted. I myself have a hardtime when I get cold feet. Many of my ex's have said the most fearfull phrases to a mans peepee, " I love you"---"I would marry you"---"I want to have children with you one day"---" I'm in for the Long Haul".It's like an instant heart attack for the penis---The same vagina for the next 30 years---ahhhh!!!!----- Each time i hear something like from a Girlfriend i felt like Loreatta Bobbit came by and castrated me in front of Sorority row while wearing my Pike boxers my Grandma made for me. It scares me but I know why. I know that I have a problem staying faithfull to one woman. I put a girl through complete hell (back in the day, not anytime recent jenn) because i dated her for sometime and cheated on her the whole time, I would wake up in the morning with the one and then by lunch i was eating with the other and nailing her afterwards while still keeping plans C and D occupied with the daily phone calls and occasional visits when A and B were gone out of town. I also know why I am like this. I am like this because I once found a girl I would have given the world for ( Jenn this is a while ago). I was younger and not as knowledgeable of the woman mind as I am now but I told her how I felt. This girl did not look like the model type chicks I go for now but she was everything I wanted in a woman, down to the shape of her nose and face, the shape of her teeth, her voice and laugh as well as the way she moved her hands when trying to instill a theory of hers into my concept of thinking( I'm very picky). I told her one day how I felt, EVERYTHING , you know what she did? ( This is the only time in my life a girl has done something remotely like this to me) She stood up and gave me a long kiss, then walked out the door and never spoke to me again. It put me into depression for 9 months. But has this stopped me? No, why? I had a dream that I was in a room and there were 100 porn stars in it with me. 50 from Germany and 50 from Sweden--( I'm swedish and german)--all light blondes of course and had heavy accents. This dream meant two things (I looked it up), it meant that I AM a stud and it meant there ARE many hot chicks out there waiting for me. If you can't stay in a relationship, don't go into one. I'd say just flirt with ALL of them. This way it makes them all chase you and it gives you the attention you probably need. This also gives you the feeling every woman needs---The feeling of desireableness. By staying single it leaves hope for some pathetic guy to think he actually has a chance with you and it keeps you from getting hurt and looking like a slut.
Seriously, I hope you get your troubles sorted out. I felt the urge to write to a DG as I am wearing an anchor ball shirt my ex-gave me from the formal. If you think it's that bad make out with 5 guys at a club one night and after that you won't feel like such a slut for actually dating men for only a few weeks.
Words of Wisdom from yours truely,
UF
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