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Originally Posted by tld221
On to my asterisk: how does NPC define "want"? Is it an intrapersonal "the last few days getting to know you have been amazing, let's go steady" want, or a straightforward "our quota is a number we need to fill and we want you to be a member"? Or is this respective to the scenarios I listed above? In other words, are there chapters that, when bid matching (either by hand or machine) want everyone on their first bid list? Like over the moon, "she NEEDS to be my sister" want.
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I was in a "weak-recruiting chapter", so here's a perspective from that end:
Every round, there were disappointments for us: women we wanted who didn't return to our chapter. We knew we were a WRC, and that we were competing with SRCs, and that Patty Perfect PNM might not be on our list, but I have been the one (as chapter president) to break the news to an active collegian that her little sister had declined our invitation. Those hurt.
But just as we tell PNMs (and as my Rho Chi once said to me) to have an open mind and to look at the chapters left on their invite list as the only chapters on campus, each round, we'd do our best to refocus on the pool of PNMs that we DID have, and find something to love about each one.
Are there women we are over-the-moon to have, versus women we aren't? Well, they are on the bid list in an order, but in a chapter like mine (over 100 women), it's not at all like we are going to have a homogenous opinion. There were women in my chapter who were "rush crushes" for some of my sisters that I didn't feel a strong affection for, and vice-versa. Further, someone who didn't shine during FR may just not have met the right women in the chapter to really "click". But the bottom line is that I loved my chapter and my sisters, and I firmly believe that any woman who meets the requirements of membership will be an asset to the chapter in one way or another, and many in ways you just can't know during FR.
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