do I have to party?

[sherrybaby]

no, but you should be prepared to have to put in extra effort to bond with your sisters in other ways. i don't drink and i'm a happy, involved member of the chapter with the party reputation - but while other sisters in my pledge class grew close seemingly instantly after several weekends going out with one another, i had to try a lot harder to find ways to spend time with my sisters. not to say there aren't plenty that don't drink either, but i had to find them and find fun ways to hang out.

i've also gone to a few parties, but i understand if you don't want to - it's hard to have fun at some of the crazier parties where you're literally the only sober person there. i tend to stick to the more low-key parties and hang out with some of the other DDs.

anyway, if you really want to be close to your sisters, you aren't going to have in your arsenal one of the easiest way to bond. so join committees, plan silly girly sleepovers and trips to local amusement parks, go to every philanthropy event (or almost, still keep school a priority), even if you don't have to. if you have a house, make it a point to just hang out there, even though it might be awkward at first. arrange study get-togethers with snacks.

basically, your level of closeness with your sisters is entirely up to you, and you don't have to party to become an involved, happy, well-liked sister.