Hello. I'm sorry if I'm not posting this in the right place, I'm new. Also apologies in advance, this post is pretty ramble-y.
My story - I'm a sophomore going through recruitment again at one of the most intense rush programs in the country (or so I've learned from reading on these boards). Last year as a freshman, I received heavy cuts right before pref round and thought that I was "too good" for the houses I got back, so I dropped out. A lot of this was due to my obsessive readings of a certain college gossip site that absolutely rips apart "bottom houses". Gossip about sorority chapters is so intense at my school. It took over my brain.
Since then, I've had a HUGE attitude adjustment and I'm going through recruitment again with as open a mind as possible. I strongly want to be a part of this system, I know this. I will join any house on campus. I'm making the same mistakes as last year, though, by talking to my friends about their lists and reading that INFERNAL gossip site and getting sucked back into the top house/bottom house thing. That's whats killing me the most - the "rankings" and the negative emotions that stem.
Please understand that I am not the kind of person who lets the opinions of others affect me! I hate these feelings that are popping up again! The shame of being cut from "top houses", the embarrassment of liking "bottom houses", etc. It's absolutely, ludicrously stupid for someone who badly wants to be a part of this system. But the gossip/tent talk digs itself into my brain and tells me that if I join a house with the "awkward girls", that'll confirm my fear that I'm an awkward girl as well.
I loathe the day I found the greek gossip/ranking sites. I truly want to be happy in any house on campus. I'm afraid that come bid day though, I'll find out the houses that my friends joined and feel inferior to them if the house I join is a "bottom" house.
So I know two things I need to stop doing immediately: reading that gossip site and talking to my friends about the houses they get back. I know the answer to this question, but I need to hear it from all of you lovely sorority women, past, present, whatever: ALL houses are good houses, right? All of them,
regardless of ranking or gossip or reputations, will allow me to enjoy all aspects of sisterhood and greek life? Because that's all thats important, yeah?
I've read a lot of posts on here and I trust that many of you are very kind, so thank you SO much for any reassurance you can provide.
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