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Originally Posted by MOMto2
Congrats to all the new members! I hope you will all be truly happy with your new homes at Auburn.
On a side note, I hear several girls showed up at their new houses crying because they did not receive the bid they desired, ie...their first or second choice. Is this not rude to the sorority that extended the bid? Furthermore, if they choose to drop out and decline the bid, is it not a spot which could have been offered to someone who truly desired it?
I know that the Auburn Pi Chis do a wonderful job of guiding these girls through the confusing process of recruitment. I just have to wonder if these girls truly understand the implications of signing a bid card. Why put sorority on the bid card if you are not willing to accept a bid from them? Would these girls not be better off indicating up front they do not want to be a member of XYZ thus allowing this spot to passed along to another?
Some girls, like some mentioned during this recruitment thread, know when a place is not right for them and they drop or do not maximize their options. Maybe this is a better option than walking in to 200-250 new sisters welcoming you and you indicate by incessant crying "I really don"t want to be here."
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For some of these girls, they aren't as much disgusted with the thought of joining the chapter they got as much as shocked that they didn't get the chapter they thought they would. I know from experience with a girl in my chapter who expected to receive a bid from her legacy chapter and didn't that sometimes you just can't help crying. She thought she'd let her sisters down. Her family had redecorated her room at home already in anticipation! All she really needed is for someone to take her aside, shake her up a little, tell her to dry her tears because later she'd regret embarassing herself. She washed her face and made the best of the day. She called her family, broke the news. They ran around tearing down all the other sorority things and ran out to make an AOII basket of goodies before she made it home. She made a great AOII. You can't always hold it against them for getting a little emotional over the shock of the day. Not everyone gets what they are expecting.
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