On the flip side of this thread,
Collegiate members and recommendations/references , I wanted to ask this...
Even though a lot of people say, "it's up to the sorority to chase down a rec for a PNM", let's face it, the PNM is a better position if they have mobilized themselves and secured rec forms
on their own . A lot of would be rushees come on this board and say "Help! I am going to do Recruitment at ___ University and I have to find recs and I don't know anyone".
Well, my question is, "How well would you personally, need to know someone in order to write a Recommendation or sponsor this individual for membership?"
For me, I would not be comfortable writing a recommendation for a PNM that I have never met (and yes, I have been approached (last year) by a Greek Chatter who wanted a Recommendation Form). I politely declined, saying that I was not comfortable doing this and since we did not know each other personally and that we had never met face to face, I didn't think it was appropriate for me to do so?
So...what do y'all think? For PNMs who are going to Rush/do Recruitment at ultra competitive schools like Ole Miss/LSU/U of Florida/USC, I think they should make every effort to put themselves in as good a position as possible...yet at the same time, what about putting alumnae in a sticky predicament where they don't a rushee personally? Someone could send me a scrap book of all their accomplishments, but still you can't know someone's CHARACTER and/or personality type from that? Or am I just being too difficult?
As an alumna, how WELL should you know a PNM in order to write a RecForm/Sponsorship?
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