Wait, I'm confused. So what is the difference between a "probate" and a "coming out show?" From the context of this thread, it looks as though probate is a show that happens before initiation (and seems to be something negative). Is that what y'all are saying? Because I've only ever heard the two used interchangeably, no difference at all.
And yes, I Googled before asking but all that came up was a bunch of legal stuff, that Kevin probably put out there just to confuse me.

Though this was good for a laugh--gotta love people going off on usernames:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/in...1103024AAjY9pA