Cheating Men

[lovelyivy84]

Originally posted by DST Love
I know you've mad your decision but I can't help saying that what you are doing is the most selfish thing ever. She has the right to possibly be with a man that will respect her every moment of the day whether he is physically around her or not. Or at least she deserves honesty from the man who claims to love her. By not providing her with the same choice you had (which is to be with someone else), that is just plain SELFISH. I pray to God that WHEN this woman finds out (and she will believe me because your guilt at sometime will shine through and SHE WILL figure it out or someone else may tell) that she does not suffer as much embarassment as I'm sure she will. Meaning, she will be thinking about how long your boys might have known or others may have known (even if they didn't, she will think it) and how everyone saw her being the loving wifey to you and all the while you had it good 'cause you could do what you wanted and still keep her. It will be embarassment on top of everything else.

It sounds like you've made up your mind but I say if you love her, give her the chance to decide how her life should be and with whom, be it you or someone else. Doesn't she deserve at least that?!!!!! Doesn't she deserve to be as happy with someone as you were the night of your "accident" ?

If she does this to you, I guess you would want her to be selfish and say that she won't tell you either because she doesn't want to lose you. And so then does it become okay for you both to keep cheating on one another and not tell because neither one of you want to lose the other one? Why not just make it a habit and never tell each other the truth about anything?

I'm sorry for being so harsh. I am just so sick of people being completely selfish in this day and age in all aspects of their lives. Always talking about what's best for them. Interesting ? Where's the integrity and character?

Also, if you decided to tell, you never know if this woman may forgive you, see the good in you and try to work it out anyway. That does happen, you know. Also, if she stays with you after it all, maybe you having to tell her and see the pain in her face will DEFINITELY keep you from ever cheating again for not wanting to see her hurt like that again. Sometimes when a person has to SEE the consequences of their actions, it makes them avoid making those same bad choices again. Because other than that, what is to stop you from doing it again?

Not that you should care, but my issues aren't whether or not you can work it out, or if you're a good person (which you may be) but that first it shouldn't have happened in the first place and second now that it has happend she deserves some choices in this as well.

Please don't get mad at me for all my opinions, but you posted your business so I just replied. I will pray that things work out for you both the way God intends for them to.

I agree with your statements.

Professor, I really honestly think that your girl will find out. If not through you, then through an acquaintance, or friend, or God forbid through the woman you cheated with. This is one of those secrets that is tough to keep, REAL tough.

I wish you the best, but I too think that your behavior on this one is very, very selfish. I can only hope that you used protection when you cheated and don't give this woman more than infidelity to worry about.