Can I get some advice?

[MysticCat]

I think if you look around here, you'll find lots of people had some adjustment getting used to the people in their chapters. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. Like I said before, ultimately only you can figure it out, and at the risk of a cliche, it's likely to be what you make of it.

As to your name,

Originally Posted by KappaSig123

I didnt think it would be that big of a deal.

I'm sure no harm was intended. But now you know that most fraternity and sorority members would consider it a very big deal.

Originally Posted by VandalSquirrel

You also may want to stop referring to it as a frat, some people find that offensive for whatever reason.

Originally Posted by 33girl

Yes, for the love of all that's holy stop calling it a frat. You sound either like someone writing a bad 80s sitcom or a piece of trailer trash when you do so.

Originally Posted by KappaSig123

Half the guys in the house call it a Frat

Like VandalSquirrel said, some people find it very offensive, but not everyone does. Most fraternity HQs heavily discourage use of the word because of the Animal House/frat boy connotation. (No stupid or profane analogies are needed beyond that.)

Its a g*d damn internet message board. I mean who cares what I call myself for one thread.

Like I said, most members of fraternities tend to care a great deal.

The point is, if you're asking people for advice, you usually get further if you don't offend them. Calling yourself "KappaSig" when you're not one yet and using the word "frat," even if the brothers in the chapter use it, are pretty much guaranteed to offend a good number of people on a Greek chat board. It is what it is.