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Suppose for a minute that someone posted this message: “ Hi, I’m Amberglo, and I’ve just had the most amazing rush, but I have so many conflicting feelings and maybe you can help me. My campus has four sororities, and my favorites were Eyeliner and Mascara, they were confident and pretty, the more desireable and attractive ones . I am attractive and I felt I really fit in with these, we seemed to really connect! I was so happy thinking about being a member! But I got cut by both, and had only lipgloss and blush, the small, friendly, plain girl ones , and I chose lipgloss, and now I have glad feelings ( I’m in a sorority, they’re really nice) and kind-of-embarrassed ones (I still care what others think). Sometimes I hear the Eyeliner chants and I can’t help but wonder what it would be like to be one of them. What can I do to get over this?
I would tell her that her feelings are normal, but will fade.
I would tell her that sorority life can make her a better person, and it’s worth being a member of any of those four.
I would tell her that on other campuses, the lipglosses are great, and other girls on that other campus have wished they were a lipgloss in the same way she kind of wishes she were an Eyeliner..
That in time, she’ll have an “ah HAH!” moment when she really starts to appreciate the reason that friendship is valued over looking perfect, and be sooo glad she chose the one she did. I would tell her to concentrate on getting good grades, and on presenting herself and her sorority well on campus.
And in two or three short years, she’ll be out of college and meeting alumnae from other chapters across the country who are pretty, smart, and accomplished, just like her.
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