Curious

[VandalSquirrel]

Originally Posted by rebelgirl

I appreciate everyone's responses so much. I actually think that an adviser role might be what I am looking to do. I thought an adviser would have to be a member of the group so I never considered that. Of course it isn't something I would do at this moment. I do have a lot going on right now. I was just wondering and thought I would ask a few questions.

ThetaPrincess24, yes I have contacted BSP's national office. I even went to a few meetings with local women of different chapters. I've actually looked into them in two cities I've lived in and have found the same theme. I also have looked into PEO, Delta Theta Tau and my mother tried to get me to join Daughters of the American Revolution. I just haven't found the right group for me yet.

As for 33girl, I feel it's a little rude to say something like "reading is fundamental." It sounded as if you might be a member so I was trying to be polite. As for me saying that "what they really need is ME" well I didn't and that isn't what I was saying.

Also VandalSquirrel has only proven to me why I never bothered to ask these questions before. To say you "question what her intentions and issues were" is very insulting. I believe I even explained what my intentions were. As for getting a job in higher education, since you don't know my career field I'll just say that they don't mesh. Sorry you read so much into me trying to keep things short and simple. I suppose I should have gone into a long diatribe on how I have a lot of free time, would like to make a difference and have yet to find an outlet that has filled that need.

Most everyone has been very helpful and actually given me answers that I didn't realize I was looking for. My only other questions is, how would you go about becoming an adviser? Can you contact them? I have friends who are alumni of sororities so should I talk to them and have them contact a sorority? Again, I'm more just asking questions then going to run out and sign on.

If having someone on the internet say this to you bothers you so much, how would you handle it in person? There are may members who joined in college who don't understand, like, or accept Alumnae Initiates, and you need thicker skin to deal with that from sisters, let alone someone on the internet. What if you find a group and the interest isn't mutual?

If some woman approached me and my sisters and wanted to be involved and join us, who didn't work at the University (and working in higher ed. IS a way to advise without being a member) or have anything to do with us previously, you'd bet we'd ask WHY and if you gave me that answer I'd wonder why joining an NPC sorority with no ties to one (as a legacy, relative of a member, a faculty or staff advisor) is what you need to not feel you're missing something.

Alumnae Initiation is rare, and even rarer is the Alumna Initiate who cold calls a group.

ETA: Asking your friends who are alumnae may make for some awkward situations if the group is not interested in extending membership. If you've mentioned it and they didn't engage you in discussing it further I wouldn't push the issue. I can only speak for myself, but if I thought a friend would be an asset to my sorority I'd discuss it with my sisters before I'd discuss it with her.