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Originally Posted by JustCurious20
Thanks for all the kind words-i mean i've faced rejection before..but its usually so concrete, such as you didnt make cheerleading this year bc your front hand spring was off or your toe touch was sloppy. That way your like okay, I'll work on that and make it next year. Constructive criticism. My major mental breakdown moment with rush was that I felt like this was a 360 examination- my hair, grades, clothes, friends, reputations, extracurriculars, etc. etc. I felt like these groups thought, well on an overall level..your just not good enough so we're going to cut you as quickly as possible (1st round). Its hard to try to improve when all you can think is wow, everything is wrong with me.
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It is a 360 examination.
And just because you were cut doesn't necessarily mean you are a terrible person and you have all kinds of stuff wrong with you.
No one can really tell you (on this board or otherwise) what went wrong. Maybe you really did have stellar grades and extra currics and community service, but a LOT of other people going through recruitment have the SAME THINGS.
People get lost through the cracks sometimes b/c of the release figures. It happens all of the time.
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My boyfriend told me he'd break up with me if I rushed when I was a freshman. So I didn't. Then I rush as a sophomore and this happens. Now I'm going on as a junior. I know quite a few sweet, nice girls.. I've made it a point even to befriend greek women and ask the friends I've had since before college for their advice. I'm trying so hard..
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That sucks that you potentially missed a great experience as a freshman b/c of your jerk boyfriend. Personally, someone who gives you ultimatums like that aren't worth being with anyway.
It's possible that even as a Sophomore you were cut hard because of your class standing, and you need to prepare yourself for that again next year if you plan to rush again as a Junior.
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I have a question. If I have a stellar gpa, should I even bring it up? Someone told me I may have gotten cut because I had a hard major and a good gpa. I dont see how this could be bad? But I dont know..thats just who I am, thats whats important to me. Another question-are girls looked down upon who re-rush? Will they wonder whats wrong with me and be confused as to why I'm still trying to get a bid? I don't want to look desperate or be "that" girl.
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If you are going to dumb yourself down to get into a sorority (a plan that likely won't work) you probably have some deeper issues that you need to deal with before thinking about rushing again.
I think generally there are women who remember pnms that went through the year before.
Also, you mentioned previously that you went through rush but "weren't happy with the results" -- is that because you dropped out? Or were you dropped by all houses?