Wedding Photo Insult (or not)?

[87azdalum]

I've kind of got my feelings hurt and had to vent somewhere no one would know my family ('cept you, volgirl!). My sister-in-law (hubby's sis) is getting married on the 27th. She's the last sibling to marry for the first time, and there are seven siblings.

My in-laws had a family portrait made in the '70s that included mom, dad, all seven children, and one sister's boyfriend. That portrait has hung over the dining room china cabinet for decades. Since then, the sister and boyfriend have married and divorced. So, mom and dad decided it was time for a new family portrait, since the sister was dating someone new (a complete a** who was offended by the ex-husband being in the 20+ year old family photo and mentioned it at Christmas time).

So, my husband and I (we've been married five years this April 5th) were told that he and our two children need to be at the church on the wedding day for family photos with the bride and groom at 1 p.m. Apparently, the family is including mom and dad, siblings and their grandchildren, but no daughter or son-in-laws. This is where I get offended. If it were just the parents and their seven kids, I have no problem. But, include my husband and my children, and not me?!? I think that's erring too far on the side of caution. My husband and I aren't having any marital problems, but I feel like I (and the two other -in laws) am being excluded in the event my husband and I divorce in the future. For the record, my wedding pictures include three exes (two ex husbands and one ex boyfriend).

I'm not going to say anything because I don't want to make problems for the bride. Am I being too sensitive? Has anyone ever heard of this before?

Thanks for listening to my vent!