Legacies?

[Widgetgirl]

When I went through rush 26 years ago, being a lecacy meant that the sorority should make every effort to at least get to know you and that you would get invited back after the first day--if nothing else, just so that you were able to meet as many people as possible. I was reading on a sorority thread that most sororities still have that policy (and most will call the relative who was a member to let them know if the legacy is cut), but I was wondering about fraternities. My son is a legacy of a fraternity because of his father, and he went through rush this week at Ole Miss. He was cut by this particular fraternity after the first night, after he was only able to talk to two members. His father is trying to find out what happened (just like I will do if my girls are rejected from my sorority--or my mother's--after only one party). My son is a very good-looking kid, who is very athletic, with better than average grades. I'm very aware of how the greek system works (I was a "mega-legacy" to a sorority, and my mother was the president of her alumni group in her major city and was at the house when I went through rush), so I'm not just a mom who sees her son as a perfect kid. He has a beautiful girlfriend who is in a very popular sorority at Mississippi State, and he is on a full ARMY scholarship at Ole Miss (and we don't even live in MS). Is it possible that they are anti-military and just didn't like his buzzed hair?

His father has always financially supported his fraternity, and I have always supported my sorority, as well. His father is ready to saw his paddle in pieces and send it to his fraternity as his last financial gift to them over this. We would NEVER expect anyone to pledge him just because he is a legacy, but shouldn't he have been able to meet more than two people in the fraternity before he was cut? What are the rules these days regarding legacies in fraternities? Or maybe it just doesn't matter anymore.

I didn't mention the particular fraternity, because I wasn't sure if it was allowed. This is the first time I have seen this site, and I just joined it to see what I could find out.

Oh, and you may have noticed that I did not join the sorority that I was a "mega-legacy" of, but that was my choice. Honestly, I liked that the other sororities liked me for ME, not because of my mother. So, again, I do feel like both sides should have their choice, but I believe that my son should have been considered beyond the first night.

Sorry I rambled...just an upset and confused Ole Miss Mom...