Leaving Fraternity

[vaisbest]

I counselor teenagers and I keep reading advise on these pages that makes me wonder if you actually care about what you are saying or just being insensitive or what? when you decide to leave any organization whether it is a job or sorority or frat or even social network, you don't just tell everyone before you have researched the ramifications. now, with that said, when leaving a frat at the college, you can be penalized in ways that have nothing to do with money or what was said during rush. there are other members that like to make you uncomfortable, gossip about you and in general make you cringe into the background when you see them. one young lady I have counseled feels so uncomfortable around the girls from the sorority she left that she goes in another direction when she sees them. They whisper and point at her and make her feel less than because she did not want to be a part of their sorority. Ladies, are we all so heartless that we don't understand this? If you think your sorority or your daughter does not do this, you might be very surprised to know how she treats other young women. and guys can be just as petty. GET ALL THE INFO YOU CAN BEFORE ANYONE CONNECTED TO THE FRAT KNOWS ANYTHING ABOUT YOUR INTENTIONS TO LEAVE.