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Your sons talking to the coach is a good call. It is also a good call for them to rush and make it very clear during rush to the fraternities that they are going to be on the football team. Any fraternity that is any good at all will know what that means and make their own decisions accordingly.
Srmom has it right- a good fraternity at a good school anywhere will jump at the chance to pledge a solid guy who has made a major personal committment to one of that school's sports teams.
And like she said, time and priorities will have an impact on where such individuals place their loyalties and develop their closest bonds.
All the same, your sons can find great value now and in the future in going Greek- and the chapters they choose will benefit as well. That is what it is all about.
Every chapter has guys who are at the house all the time and make it their life. And every chapter has guys who are rarely present and do not have the same direct connection while in school. But the latter group includes guys who care about the chapter but also have other obligations.
A good fraternity wants solid men- even if those solid men have other priorities in their lives. A guy who makes the committment to participate in football brings- by virtue of his efforts and drive- great credit on his fraternity that overcomes any issues with him not being at every pledge meeting or coming to every party.
So my advice for your sons is to rush if they want, but just be honest and up front about their committment to football. Any fraternity worth having them will understand and adjust accordingly. Take this advice from an alumnus of a top southern school which had many athletes in our chapter. The ones who wanted to be part of our group were given the chance to do so with genuine consideration for the demands on their time.
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