I am very tired and stressed, so please bear with me, but I have some thoughts I need to get out.
First and foremost - it is extremely bad etiquette in ANY forum to have your first ever post be a slam on an active member of that forum, no matter how long you have been "lurking."
The reason the "rep" questions drive me nuts is I have seen erroneous rumors and scuttlebutt (there's a couple 25 cent words for you) damage chapters to the point of extinction. I don't mean chapters that haze the crap out of pledges - they deserve all the bad publicity they can get. I mean the chapters that may not be prettiest or most popular and may be full of wonderful girls, but no one will give them a chance. And as we've definitely seen, national officers monitor these boards. How would you feel if it was your chapter getting extra scrutiny because someone posted on here "they have the worst rep with the guys"?
I can't count the number of times I've preached on here in favor of deferred rush. In my mind the 2 go hand in hand. Yes it sucks that women have to go into rush knowing nothing - yes it sucks that they feel they have to turn to a message board for advice. There is no substitute for seeing the sororities in person and how they operate day to day. Many of the women on my floor freshman year pledged and I definitely got to know who kept their pledges out till 3 AM, who was always happy during their pledge time and who did a personality 180. Had I not had that behind me I don't think I'd have known WHAT to do during rush. Your life is in such an upheaval at that time anyway - I think making a lifetime commitment is a lot to ask. My personal belief is that a lot of the unhappiness experienced in the Greek system could be lessened by implementing deferred rush.
The End. Just my o.
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