I have dated outside of my race. In fact, my very first "real" boyfriend was white. He presented me with a dozen roses in the 11th grade...how cute was that?
After inital resistance, I gave in. My family knew he was totally into me, and welcomed him. MOST of his family totally welcomed me; his dad was lukewarm, but never disrespectful to me.
I last dated outside of my ethnicity in college (moons ago), but I certainly don't knock anyone who does do it--even though it DOES seem harder to deal with the smug brothers who date outside of their race because of some deep-seated hostility toward black women (but anyway...). There can be some differences to be sure, but it's all about trade-offs. I would rather have a secure white guy who loves and respects me and my ethnicity (because I don't believe in the concept of "color-blindness") than a black man who is self-loathing and doesn't respect me nor "our" progress as a people anyday of the week! I have met too many black folks who "can't relate" to what I'm going through to have the illusion that all black folks will be able to "relate" simply because the color of their skin is brown.
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