Sorry to disappoint you, but I don't think your post was worthy of your being banned from the forum. Your post was very general, not that this thread is about what you're speaking of, but there are many reasons for prospectives not being extended membership.
As people we ALWAYS think we are qualified (often over qualified) for membership. That remains to be seen, though. It is important, regardless of your qualifications, to remain humble. We want people who will step up...but we don't want people who can't put their pride aside long enough to be taught and given direction---know-it-alls, etc. Now, going back to THIS topic, you never know what someone will do AFTER they become a member---we're not psychic and people always manage to surprise us. It is often a matter of weighting our options---someone you think can be an asset to the organization can be the one to "bounce" or not do as they should----someone who may be overlooked many times could be the person who's true and will work hard for the lifelong commitment. We're imperfect people, so it goes without saying that the selection process will be imperfect. I assume you're not Greek (I don't assume you WANT to be Greek), but people always have so many criticisms from the outside looking in, and when they become on the inside (if they want to be on the inside), they make the same mistakes they criticized the members for. It's not easy to be on the inside OR the outside---which is why we shouldn't really speak on or judge things that we don't completely comprehend.
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Originally posted by REIKI
It is strange that you should say such a thing. I hope you do not take offense by this...and I will probably be banned from the forum..but I hope you get to read this...I find it odd that time and time again I have read about members "bouncing" so to speak over trivial reasons and that it's time to do this and that, time to up the quality of membership, then when one applies, and this probably sounds self-absorbed, but oh well, when one applies, she is looked over because her "strength" is unsettling, or somehow causes those with the power to grant her membership to believe that because she is so outspoken about certain issues, she will indeed be the one to "flake out" so to speak. It is just odd to me. Even though I have read time and again that chapters are different, it just doesn't seem to justify a "quality" prospect that does "step up" by adhering to you public policy being unjustly overlooked then have one that got in "flake out" and walk 
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