Smart Women being stupid in relationships...and the friends who pick up the pieces!!

[JennRN]

Ok, this is sort of a vent for me, but feel free to offer advice. I have a friend who has a great job, is intelligent and successful, but pathetic in relationships.
Here's the story: she dated Mr. X who was seperated-not divorced-for almost 2 years. Then they break up, I don't know why. Fast forward to spring 2007 for round 2. They date for about 6 months. He's still NOT divorced, but going to do it for sure this time. They start travelling together, he's giving her jewelry, they talk about opening a business together and getting married in Hawaii in a couple of years. I start to worry. The date of his final divorce deadline(the one where you've filed and the time elapses and then you have to officially keep pushing for divorce) comes up. Mr. X tells my friend that his counselor tells him he needs a "break". That was 2 months ago and she hasn't seen or heard from him since. Now, she has to return all his crap-so her plan is to pack it up, leave it on his doorstep, RING THE DOORBELL, and leave. She's even giving back the jewelry.

We were discussing this and she's like-I want him to live with this/he thinks it's just a break and I want him to know I'm not sitting here waiting for him/I'd be lying if I said I wasn't hoping to get the jewelry back one day.

Ok-no, he doesn't think it's just a break (does he??). And you're admitting you'd get back with him!! While I want to be supportive of her, because she's a good friend, part of me wants to be like-enough of this!!! Stop being pathetic!!! (I forgot to mention he's about 20 years older than her). Argggh!!!