I NEED ADVICE

I am a senior in high school and am very new to the whole greek scene. anyway, i'm thinkin about joining one in college but i need some advice. i dont really mind some drinking but im not really into the whole "LETS GET SMASHED" mentality and dont want to be hazed, yet thats all i hear about when i hear frat anything. am I just way out of line in wanting to pledge one or am I hearing the wrong things? p.s. im lookin at going to U of Ten, bama, or auburn if that helps at all