Gifts that hurt your feelings

[James]

If he is good in other dimensions of your relationships you may just want to get over it.

You might have put in thousands of hours of thought to his gift . . but well he probably doesn't care.

For many guys this just isn't an area they care a lot about.

In some ways, conventional romantic gifts exist so men don't have to put a lot of thought into eliciting the "awwwwww" effect. Jewelry, flowers, and cards require almost nothing except money and a minuscule amount of time. With the internet and credit cards its even easier.

I do agree that its indicative of a lack of understanding of romantic relationships, or maybe even just general lazy laziness or lack of energy.

Thats why I am saying you need to evaluate the rest of his actions. If he generally never goes the extra mile, or even worse doesn't understand that there is an extra mile, you have to ask yourself whether that is what you want.

Originally Posted by fantASTic

What do you do when you get a gift for an anniversary or something that CLEARLY has no thought put into it?

I ask because I just celebrated my one-year anniversary with my boyfriend. I spent a lot of time finding the perfect gift for him, only to find that he bought me a sweatshirt that was WAY too big and was under $20. We tried to take it back to get one that was the right size, but they didn't even have one that fit me. I know it's silly, because it's just stuff, but it really hurt my feelings because he bought it the day of and didn't think about what I would like at all. I don't want to tell him and hurt HIS feelings, either. Ugh.

Advice?