When being over is a good thing.

[justabeachbrat]

Breakups -- mutual, one sided- can be nasty.
But when did it click--this girl/guy you've been dating for months was just wrong for you?

Hopefully, no one was badly burned in the process.

Flashback: I was at my then guy's company yearly dinner, good projects were recognized, long speeches. During a break in the official program, everyone was chattering away. I realized the conversation had stopped at our table. I guess my guy had asked me a question. I'd gone off to land of Oz and been non-responsive. The team leader of his project, sitting at our table, took it upon himself to repeat the question a few times, the last very loudly. That snapped me back to the table. There were about 5 couples and my date all looking at me, like Owls. It was like being caught daydreaming in class by a nasty professor. Other than my date, I didn't know one else there, so no one to rescue me. I just started laughing, got up and hauled to the ladies room.

When the event ended, so did our relationship. The guy asked what was wrong with me. Other than I woke up, I really didn't have would have been a satisfactory answer. I could have said that during all the chatter my mind took me back to Ensenada and I was dancing with one of the truly crazy fun guys in my life. Instead, the relationship ended with a stupid argument.