Welcome IvyDeviness!
Personally, I don't feel as though everyone that comes through the grad chapter is 'suspect' just because theydidn't go undergrad. Now, don't get me wrong....sometimes there are people like that -- rejected for very good reasons on the undergrad level, but somehow slip through the cracks of grad. I know women who just didn't have the money undergrad; were focused on other things at that time; chapters are/were suspended for years (my chapter didn't have a line until 5 years after I crossed) and etc. We really need to get over this great divide -- made grad vs. made undergrad!
And I truly agree with you about 'friends'. But that happens on both levels. People get into the chapter undergrad because of friends as well as grad. Both processes need to be tightened.
And the one chance thing...I'm not going to touch that too much !

Many GOOD sorors didn't make it the first time around. Some for good reasons! Some for very petty, immature reasons! It would be ashame if we would have a process that would have barred them from entry.
Lastly, I do agree with you on the exclusivity thing and reclaiming sorors. Reclaiming our inactive pearls, should be a top priority of the organization. The numbers given at the last Boule' were astonishing. And if we still put on QUALITY programs, do our part in the community and carry ourselves in our 'oh so AKA way'

I don't think we will ever have to worry about not having anyone interested in our illustrious organization!
(To clarify...before there is cyber-chit-chatting, I was made undergrad, I am financially active and I applied only once to OUR great organization

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