Ok, heres the sthick. I need ya'lls opinion.
Situation:
I show up at Fox & Hound tonight because a few of the brothers and the associated chicks are hanging out. I get offa work about 9, take a quick nap and meet them there about 11:30 for a few beers. I get there and everyone is glad to see me except Steve. Normally hes all hearty handshakes and back slaps. Tonight he was removed. I ask Ann, a good friend whts up. She sais that "He told me he has issues with you." I was all WTF?
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Steve is a fellow alum, and was initiated in 96, a few years after me. We've always gotten along great. He f*cking lived with me last summer when he was looking for a job. (for 2 months) great guy to party with and hang out with. Not one of my closest friends, but in the next circle out. Weve been through some crap together - but I also know where his skeletons are buried...
SO Ann tells me that he doesnt like how I "Owe a bunch of people money." Ann is like who? And he says, "Janette, and a bunch of others." And Ann presses on, "Who else?" but he wont specify and just says that it is "Wrong."
So Imagine my suprise. Ann knows I was outta work for 6 months (try finding a job as a web-developer in this economy...and after Sept 11.) I finally land the cool job 3 weeks ago, so I am finally getting back on my feet. I only owe $$ to 2 close friends. 1) John, I owe $60. I did owe $300 for my rent he helped me out with in August, and I have paid him all but $60 (10 bucks a week) and 2) Jeanette who paid my truck payment the 15th of October. The funny part is John told me as long as I was paying him, he was cool (which I have been weekly) and Jeanette laid the terms of my loan with her as 6 months due so the 15th of April I pay her. I have never owed anyone else, and these people offered me the loans because they are my friends and they knew I was in a rough place.
So what I dont understand is how this is his concern.
From the psycological point of view I know why it bothers him. He just lost his job last month. Hes in a tight place. I think he is afraid that his friends wont come through as readily for him as they did me. I had to rely on my friends, as I dont have parents to rely on like he does and others do. My friends
are my family.
So how do I handle this. I know the best way is to take the time, and pay them off and let history prove the right. But I dont appreciate him talking about me behind my back. How fu*king juvenile is that. i wouldnt expect that kind of behavior from a 24 year old. I just wanna keep my name outta his mouth. It aint his concern. I am sorry if he doesnt have enough drama in his life. I have plenty and arent looking for more.
So what do I do? Confront him?(I feel like I want to) Opinions? Suggestions?