kitten24's recruitment experience

[kitten24]

Hi everyone. I really want to share my story and ask for support from women who had a similar experience.

Last week, I went through informal recruitment at my school. I had been soooo excited to rush for months... I didn't rush in the fall because rush week was the first week of moving up to the college and I didn't feel I could handle rushing and moving in on the same day. Soon after I made that decision I really regretted it. I had a hard time finding other things to be involved in on campus. But I was hoping my school had an informal recruitment and I was so happy to find out they did! Only 4 sororities (there's a lot more at my school) were doing informal recruitment, but since I didn't really know anything about any of them, I didn't think that was a big deal.

During rush, we spent about an hour at each of the chapter houses, getting to know the girls and chatting and stuff. I really liked all the girls that I met. I felt really welcomed and everyone seemed so nice. Of the 4 houses I felt like I really connected especially with two of them and I was so excited about getting asked back.

On the first day that the sororities could contact us, I didn't get anything and I figured it was no big deal. Then the next day, still nothing, and I found out that lots of other girls that went through rush had received bids already, from the sororities that I liked the most. I cannot understand why I didn't get asked back. I know that they don't have space for everybody, but I really felt like being with these girls was my home.

How is the best way to deal with this rejection? I really wish I knew why I didn't make it, and if it is worth it to try formal recruitment next fall. I am afraid of going through the pain again, but I really thought this was the right thing for me. Did anybody else rush, not make it, and rush again and be able to join? Most of the stories I have read here have happy endings. Mostly I am just feeling really, really sad.