To Summerchild.. I said my wife follows me not to be interpreted in a negetive way. When someone is in the military your spouse tends to follow you where ever the military sends you. And by her FOLLOWING me where I go.. the military is paying for 100% of her degree. I just found this website looking for information that might help her. Instead I'm getting this craziness. For those who gave me suggestions on how I can help her and how she can help herself; I thank you. But if anyone has anything negetive to say about a man helping his wife the best way he knows how while he's deployed in Iraq then GOD bless you anyway. The world has two types of people.. those who grow and those that choose to stay little in the mind and criticize everyone else. Are you a feminist or something?