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Originally posted by James
I have had some friends say they would date/go out with (which necessitates respect) a girl that had sex (or oral sex) with them on the first date . . . but would never marry them.
Actually I have heard that a lot from guys, the never marry response. I had a friend thatw as dating a girl for over 3 years and told me point blank he would never ever marry her because she had sex with the first night.
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Ok, I realize this wasn't you James,... but how can anyone invest 3
years in a relationship knowing that they won't ever take it further because of something that, in the big picture, is rather trivial?
I mean, why waste his time with a relationship? Why not just keep her as a booty call.
I have to agree with everyone saying that it's hypocritical to dump a girl for the same thing you are doing. And it's obviously not just girls' putting that double standard out there (it actually goes way back in history, but let's not go on about it.) It's one thing to have sex on the 1st date and think it was "just a hook up", and so not pursue the relationship.
I doubt I would ever (and have not to this point) have sex on a first date. As others have mentioned, sometimes things are more "right"... and then sometimes there's your friend alchohol
helping you out. But it's a big "no" in my book.
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