Second Choice?

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I decided to do a search on this topic instead of making a new one, so I hope no one minds if I share my situation and that this does not fall into the realm of inappropriate content according to the POW.

An associate of mine came to college knowing she wanted to be a member of ABC Sorority, but when a couple of people joked that she should join XYZ she started to seriously consider it. She attended the Rush for XYZ and was subsequently rejected.

She then went off to graduate school, and still held interest in XYZ, but due to her childish behavior, several members of XYZ did not find her desirable enough to join their ranks.

This young lady met several members of ABC sorority, whom she began bonding with. Eventually, she decided that she wanted to join ABC because that is what she wanted in the first place and she felt she would fit in with those ladies much better than she would with the members of XYZ. She even began living with members of ABC, whom she has expressed her interest to.

But then she found out that a woman at her church in a nearby city is a member of XYZ, and all of a sudden she wants to do both. She contacted me to tell me all of this, and I asked her if she was just trying to go for the organization that was going to be easier to join, and she basically said she was.

I don't know if I have a bias because I KNOW that there is no doubt in my mind as to what organization I'd like to have the privilege of joining, but I don't believe there should be a FIRST and SECOND choice. I probably have no business being mad at her because I am not a member of a sorority, but I had to let her know that what she'd told me upset me. I think it would be disrespectful of her to join an organization that she chose because it was the easiest to get into, not because it was in her heart. I know I am not a member of any Greek organization, but my interest is passionate and sincere, and it breaks my heart to know that she would join any sorority out of convenience and just to have letters, ANY letters. I wouldn't dare do that and disrespect the founders and members of ANY organization.

I'm just wondering if this 'first choice, second choice' thing is common and maybe I was wrong for expressing my displeasure with my associate's situation. Perhaps I was being too hard on her, and I should let her go ahead and figure out what the 'easier' choice is.

*Sorry for the long post, just venting!